I know little of my grandparents, and have recollection of only one - my maternal grandfather. A single memory: me playing with a toy and him sitting in a chair next to me. And thats it. Although I dont remember when he died, I do remember he went to a rest home or nursing home, and my mother telling me that grandpa was now living there.
I have no connection with the past, before my existence; my personal past, heritage.
I think this condition is not unique. I was never a Hungarian-American, or a German-American. I was, and am, an American. My history starts with my parents born in America.
No past, except for my parents - and even then, not much knowledge of the lives that they lead before me.
Perhaps, they told me about their lives and I wasnt listening. Having a tendency for self-absorption, I wouldnt be at all surprised.
Is self-absorption a male trait?
No, I dont think so. It is a trait of immaturity, of the psychologically immature, of children, of alcoholics, of many of us, perhaps most of us.